Rabbi's Roundtable


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2016/2017 Roundtable Dates

September 19th                                      January 23rd

October 10th                                            February 27th

November 14th                                       March 27th

December 19th                                        April 24th

           May 22nd


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Take a 'Personal Parenting Inventory' - How has YOUR upbringing influenced your parenting style?

Taken from a new book: Jewish Spiritual Parenting:

Wisdom, Activities, Rituals and Prayer for Raising Children with Spiritual Balance and Emotional Wholeness, by Rabbi Paul Kipnes and Michelle November, MSSW.

"Lead Parenting: Can Women say No?  Can Men say Yes?"

   I was intrigued by a piece in the October Atlantic magazine where the author explained why he put his wife’s career first, and he took on more of the parenting role. He explained that though actively involved with their two sons, he was the “lead” parent; getting the kids to school, enforcing bedtimes, monitoring computer and TV use and ensuring that homework got done right.  He was the first on emergency forms and was the one who dropped everything during a crisis.

   Both he and his wife had demanding jobs, and wanted to explain why he took the role of lead parent.

   According to a Pew Research Center study, the author explained, 50% of married women report doing more child care than their male partners, whereas just 4% of men do more than their female partners.

   The author states that this disparity has a devastating effect on women’s careers, and the researchers refer to the gap between female & male wages as the “motherhood penalty.”

   The author then explains why a father is a good choice for being the lead parent and what this role has meant for him and their children. He explained that though he is passionately committed to his work in academic research and teach and values professional success, his wife is more competitive and driven than he is. The balance of her pursuing a more demanding career, and he taking up the lead at home has made them a happier couple.

   At our first Rabbi’s Roundtable, I invite our parents, grandparents and all members to join us for a discussion. How did we choose our roles? What happens to our careers and dreams when we choose to be the lead parent?  Would having the Dad have worked better?  Where we open to this scenario?

   Take a moment and read the article, then join us!

Thu, January 18 2018 2 Sh'vat 5778
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